Speak Up for Yourself More (Without Becoming Unlikable)

A few years ago, I was tasked with creating a standard PowerPoint presentation that my company would use at a variety of trainings and conferences.

Needless to say, I was really putting my all into it, determined to prove that I could handle an assignment of this size. I was already up to my eyeballs in fonts and statistics when my boss dropped by my desk and said, “Turns out we need this presentation sooner than expected! Can you have it done by the end of the week?”

My internal monologue went a little something like this: “Absolutely not, you crazy person! Unless you expect me to live here, there’s no way I can get this done that far ahead of the original deadline.”

But, what came out of my mouth? Something along the lines of, “Absolutely! Not a problem.”

Following that dishonest exchange, I worked ridiculous hours to get that presentation wrapped up in time. I arrived early, ate lunches and dinners at my desk, and took work home with me late in the evening. It was torture.

Sigh. Can you…


Circumstances can certainly make life unhappy. But a part – often a big part – of unhappiness comes from our own thinking, behavior and habits. In this article I’d like to share 7 of the most destructive daily habits that can create quite a bit of unhappiness within and in your own little world. But I’ll also share what has worked, what has helped me to minimize or overcome these habits in my life. 1. Aiming for perfection. Does life has to be perfect before you are happy? Do you have to behave in a perfect way and get perfect results to be happy? Then happiness will not be easy to find. Setting the bar for your performance at an inhuman level usually leads to low self-esteem and feeling like you are not good enough even though you may have had a lot of good or excellent results. You and what you do is never enough good enough except maybe once in a while when feels like something goes just perfect. How to overcome this habit: Three things that helped me to kick the perfectionism habit…

Make Your Life Simpler

Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.
“The aspects of things that are most important for us are hidden because of their simplicity and familiarity.”
Leonardo da Vinci 
I love simplifying my life. It makes me more effective and life less stressful. It makes me calmer and happier.
But where do you start? Or continue if you are already on your way?

These are the ways to simplify your life. Pick one of these to get started and keep doing it until it sticks and becomes just another normal part of your life.

1. Breathe. When stressed, lost in a problem or the past or future in your mind breathe with your belly for two minutes and just focus on the air going in and out. This will calm your body down and bring your mind back into the present moment again.

2. Do one thing at a time. You’ll get better results and feel better and less stressed while doing those things.

3. Write it all down. Use your mind for better things than remembering what to do. And the mind is often like a le…

Questions to Ask Yourself if you’re Questioning Your Career Path

You’re not completely sold that you’re on the right career path, but the idea of making a change is daunting. There are so many unknowns, and we all know the grass isn’t always greener on the other side. Plus, if you do decide to change course, you may have to take a step back todevelop necessary skills .
The time and energy required to transition into the right career path may be valid concerns, but they shouldn’t stop you from pursuing a path you love.
Before you make a switch of your own, ask yourself the following three questions.
1. Are You Developing a Competitive Advantage?

In The Start-up ofYou , authors Reid Hoffman and Ben Casnocha teach that we’re all entrepreneurs of our own careers. They argue that to become competitive in today’s global market, it’s critical to understand your assets (what you’re good at), your aspirations (what you want to do), and the market realities (what people will pay you for).
As you look at your work history, think of these three areas as puzzle pi…

PHOTOS: At The Premier of "Industreet"

The highly anticipated TV drama series “Industreet” created & directed by JJC Skillz and produced by ace Nollywood actor, Funke Akindele Bello premiered over the weekend on the 19th of May, 2017 at the IMAX Cinemas in Lekki.

The premiere of the music-oriented TV drama which is set to start showing on the 26th of May 2017, was an interesting one, as many stars like Kate Henshaw, Toke Makinwa, Ariyike Akinbobola, Rita Dominic, Bolanle Olukanni, Linda Ejiofor, Akpororo, Lilian Afegbai, Lolo and more were in attendance. See more Pictures Below

Discover Who You Are and What Will Make You Happy in Life

“It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.” ~E.E. Cummings
At twenty- six  I had graduated and had a great career, many friends, and some money. During that time I also became deeply depressed and entered what would be a very long relationship with worries.
It was a real struggle for me to understand why I wasn’t happy when I had everything that I thought was important in life. Was I selfish? Were my expectations too high? I honestly couldn’t understand what was missing and how to fill this huge void that gnawed at me every day.

When I look back at my life later, I realize that I really had no idea who I was or what made me happy. I kept expecting something or someone to answer this question for me.

The journey to find out who I was and what really mattered to me eventually involved meeting people,  and resigned from my job

Who am I? What do I believe in? What is my purpose? What fills me with joy and wonder? These are questions that I am just beginning to understand afte…

Topics You Should Steer Clear of in a Professional Setting

For most of us, finding just the right words to use when striking up networking conversations is, at best, intimidating. For some, especially the more introverted among us, it can be downright terrifying. Small talk is pretty much never a breeze, but chit-chat can feel even more complex because you may have more to lose than someone just thinking you’re uninteresting or too talkative.

You may have a future job opportunity or business deal at stake.

That being the case, it’s important to avoid bringing up anything that may give the person you’re speaking to a reason to pause and reconsider working with you (or even just reaching out in general).

Here are five topics you should never bring up :

1. Polarizing Views About Tribe, Religion, or Politics

I’m having this, “Do I really even have to remind people of this?” moment as I type, but you’d be amazed at some of the awkward, uncomfortable discussions I’ve been pulled into over the years. Am I saying it’s not your entitlement to have strong …